If we all ask this question a little more, I can assure your thoughts will be more collected and your mind more rested. We often spend a lot of time spinning a movie reel in our minds of past occurrences, trying to make sense of the feelings that developed within the situation and trying to decipher the thoughts another person or others involved had. But how can we honestly move on from a situation, when we are busy thinking about what happened within it at a non-relevant time? How can we really forgive a person, if we devised our own assumptions on their unrevealed thoughts.
We spend entirely too much trying to make sense of the things that are unknown.
For the things we really cant figure out, we apply a sense of fear. "Fear of the unknown" sounds very cliche but it is very true. We hold grudges and get defensive over things that are beyond our control or really dont need to be controlled in the first place. Our lives are an every changing kaleidescope of experiences, but the one thing that make them easier to live with is recognizing patterns and applying them.
Our lives are entirely shaped by patterns that are learned and discovered though an array of different experiences. Most of the patterns we discover are intentional, repetitious, and can be willingly recreated. For example: talking, walking, writing, etc. These are all examples of things we have learned how to do through practice and experience and they have helped us to adapt to different things like holding a conversation and running. Each action has its own respective purpose. We learn to walk so we can run. We learn to talk so we can learn to relate. But what do we do about bad experiences?
The common thing to do when in a bad situation, is to just "forget about it". Not to say that anything that causes stress should be avoided, however, why go through something and not identify its purpose?
Seeing purpose in the results of bad situations,relationships, and experiences,has let me see the character ive gained and the lessons learned.
Observing purpose in all I do has let me move past a bad situation knowing that, no matter how much I may think I lost, I gained a unique experience that can be used to relate to someone else. I gained character, and I gained a lesson learned. It makes a huge difference to keep your mind sharpened in this particular way so that when you reflect on the past bad relationships you have, your thoughts will be more oriented among positive and progressive thoughts.
So in conclusion, if you want to better understand people, start to evaluate them by their purpose. People have played a roll in your life whether it was good or bad. It has shaped you in some way. If you cant think of a way that they have benefited you and you dont think you can gain any type of knowledge from the situation or person... move on.
Its really just that simple
and just because, here is some robin thicke
A poetic attempt to illustrate in a slightly satirical manner on the feelings of unconditional love. He said he is going to love me
He will love me with my flaws and all....
I know that when I wake up
There is no make up
and I wish I could just make up this invention to somehow combat the way my hair just seems to want to go every other way than what I want it too
or maybe devise something that can prevent me from that over night drool
So that when the sunshines in the morning,
He somehow denies that look like some freakish ghoul
I really feel like a fool when we go to the movies
I wish I could hold all my emotions inside
but all love stories seem to make me cry
and he always has to bring a box of tissue on the side
Which also comes in handy in the spring
Which is a beautiful season
how ever my body chooses to differ
Im constantly sneezing
leaving me to look far beyond chipper
leaving me to look far beyond chipper
but, he sweetly tends to every little whimper
I appreciate that he doesn't laugh when I get my shirt caught in my zipper
and how he always has a hand waiting on me when trip over my own feet
He doesnt mind that when we dance I'll be moving to some other random beat
or how when I want to sit down I somehow miss my seat
He says he loves my curves
which was hard to understand b/c I've always seen them as some sort of curse
But he loves the way they shape into my clothes
He loves the outline they make from my head to my toes
I love how when we quarrel
we get closer
he never hesitates to listen and it makes my eyes glisten with tears
I never thought myself to be this blessed in years.
He is the definition of unconditional love
He is the mirror of the man that is sent down from above
I never have to fear that my mistakes will result in rejection
His gift is his soul, not just a section
He sees my flaws as my perfections
He wants to take me as I am with no corrections
He wants me to feel like I deserve our perfect selection....
He said he is going to love me
He will love me with my flaws and all.....